Byron's Babbles

Circumstances

Posted in Civil War, Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on June 28, 2022

It’s interesting to read about circumstances. Most that write on this subject talk about how we have unlimited ways to change our circumstances. I was inspired today by the late *General Ulysses S. Grant when in his autobiography, called Personal Memoirs of U. S. Grant, he wrote, “Circumstances always did shape my course different than my plans.” General Grant said this when speaking about how he had not planned to go to West Point or be a career service member, but circumstances shaped his life differently than he planned. Life isn’t supposed to be something we just “make it through”. Life is about progression and advancement. Our life is a journey.

Life is what we make it, so we need to make it an adventure. We so many times view circumstances as bad things to be overcome. Maybe we’ve been looking at that the wrong way. Maybe we should be paying attention to how our circumstances are shaping our plans in a way we never could have imagined. Taking that path less traveled because our circumstances are shaping our course in a certain way might just lead to greater things – like being a general who helps shape the course of history, or President of the United States. Where are circumstances taking you?

*I know your thinking that Grant was our President and I called him General. That is because I learned from Mark Twain’s autobiography (Twain and Grant were friends and Twain encouraged Grant to write his memoirs and helped him get them published) that Grant wanted to die a General and Congress reinstated him minutes before his death.

Love In Action

Today officially marks the start of the 26th week of the year. We are at the halfway point. It also means I am halfway through the great book Simple Truths of Leadership: 52 Ways To Be A Servant Leader and Build Trust, Making Common Sense Common Practice, Ken Blanchard and Randy Conley. I am reading the book one simple truth at a time and writing a reflective post each week. This week’s post reflects on Simple Truth #26: “Great Leaders SERVE.” In this simple truth the elements of the SERVE model from The Secret: What Great Leaders Know and Do, by Ken Blanchard and Mark Miller were introduced. Two things jumped out at me. First, the idea of “reinventing continuously,” and second, the statement at the end of the simple truth: “…servant leadership is love in action” (p. 69). Let’s look at reinventing continuously.

As a person who loves learning and experiencing new things, I believe In the idea that what we know today will probably not make us successful even in the near future. We must be constantly reinventing ourselves. This does not mean we are giving up or changing core values, but means we are iterating. In fact, iteration, might be a better way to look at this than reinventing. By its very nature iteration is about learning and progressing to the next level – what great leaders do. For every new iteration, feedback must occur so that the next iteration is better and moving in the right direction.

Besides the personal reinvention there are two other parts to the Blanchard and Miller model of reinventing continuously: reinventing systems and processes and structural reinvention. Now more than ever, there is rapid and continual change all around us. Just think of the supply-chain for one. There is a great need to develop an iterative mentality and create a culture of learning. Therefore, if we want to practice “love in action,” we must not wait or hope that those we serve will somehow learn all of the needed skills that make them great. We must deliberately lead and model the reinvention/iteration process for all.

The Moments That Change Our Lives

Posted in change, Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development, Nothing More by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on June 21, 2022

What are your life-changing moments? I think about life-changing moments a lot. These can be very small things to very big-time events. As I think about those moments that changed my life, I realized that they also changed my perspective. As my son enters his senior year in college we are experiencing the life-change of our developing an adult father-son relationship. This has caused me to reflect on changes that happened when I was younger, and made me feel like I was leaving my younger self behind. I was moving into adulthood, never to return. My son is moving into adulthood never to return to the “little man” as I always called him. The incredible Nothing More song, Fadein/Fadeout states it like this: “Son, I have watched you fade in; You will watch me fade out; I have watched you fade in; You will watch me fade out; When the grip leaves my hand; I know you won’t let me down.” I want to create as many moments possible with my son as he continues to fade-in.

We all had the chance to go to Matt Winn’s Steakhouse this weekend and our server, Brandon, who was awesome, got us to discussing life-changing events when he told us the biscuits would “change your life.” They did, by the way! What are those life-changing moments in our lives which reveal something powerful and influence our perspectives as we mature? We went on to discuss that the lobster tail “brought new meaning to life,” and the honey pie “is the answer to life.” I know these were goofy little quips to be coming up with, but they struck a deeper conversation about the fact that all the things we do in life change our life in some way. I even reflected on the times my mom and I use to spend lying on the ground looking up and clouds and imagining the shapes they made. Did this help shape the creative person I am today?

What are your life-changing moments? We all have those blips on our life’s metaphorical screen that shape our lives. We also need to consider the blips we are creating on others’ screens. Let’s make sure the life-changing events we bring to others are like the biscuits, lobster tail, and honey pie.

Your Unique Reason

Posted in Ken Blanchard, Leadership, Leadership Development, Randy Conley, Simple Truths of Leadership by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on June 20, 2022

I believe each and every one of us has a purpose. We each have a unique reason for being here on planet Earth. We are not here to only stroke our own egos and be interested in our superficial selves and obsess over what we want, what we have and what other people think of us. I learned a long time ago that others don’t think of us as often as we sometimes think they do and are usually so self-consumed with themselves that most of their time is spent thinking about themselves instead of us. This was the subject of Simple Truth #25, “It’s Not About You” of Simple Truths of Leadership: 52 Ways To Be A Servant Leader and Build Trust, Making Common Sense Common Practice, Ken Blanchardand Randy Conley. In today’s world, it’s easy to get off track or focus on the wrong things, leading to dissatisfaction and not taking good care of those we serve.

Great leaders bring out the best in others. Those we serve need to hear that we believe in them. Once those we serve recognize that we genuinely want to see them do well and are committed to helping them, they will begin to believe they can accomplish their purpose in the organization. By realizing it is not about us, we can bring out the best in others.

Happy Accidents

I am just about half way through Volume Two of the Autobiography of Mark Twain. As I already stated in Acquired Skills it is an is an incredibly fascinating and tough read all at the same time. To be sure, the beloved humorist keeps the reader laughing as he discusses for an entire chapter about the fly being the only species that humans cannot devise a way to exterminate. When you think about the fly, that is true. But Twain also make us think with his anecdotes. One such anecdote is his discussion of accidents. Twain reminded us “There are no accidents, all things have a deep and calculated purpose; sometimes the methods employed by Providence seem strange and incongruous, but we have only to be patient and wait for the result: then we recognize that no others would have answered the purpose, and we are rebuked and humbled.” Twain calls these “happy accidents” in his autobiography. Some might call these luck, but really they are, as he defines them, accidents. Twain even defines accidents as being an event that happens at no fault or premeditated thought or action of someone else.

There are those who imagine that the unlucky accidents of life—life’s “experiences”—are in some way useful to us. I wish I could find out how. I never know one of them to happen twice. They always change off and swap around and catch you on your inexperienced side.

Mark Twain

When I began to think about it I could come up with accidents that have happened in my life that led to some incredible opportunities. I’ll bet you can too. Twain told the story of being in New Orleans and wanting to learn to be a steam boat pilot. He asked a captain who told him “no,” but then the captain developed pain in his body that kept him from being able to pilot. Long story short, he sat in the pilot’s house and supervise Twain piloting the boat for him. Thus, Twain became an apprentice, learned to pilot the steam ship, and became a steam boat pilot. Sure seems like a happy accident to me. In fact, that whole adventure started out with Twain accidentally finding $50 in the street! The great humorist and author taught us, “Name the greatest of all inventors. Accident.” Bob Ross taught us, “we don’t make mistakes, we just have happy accidents.” Happy accidents can give us a chance to improve or go down a new path. They are a chance to create something we didn’t even imagine before. Happy accidents can give us the opportunity to learn, a chance to grow, and a chance for you to look at new perspectives. They can turn something average into a happier thing.

Getting A Helper’s High

“People who feel good about the work they do are always looking for ways to contribute to the success of your organization.” When I read this tonight in Simple Truth #24, “People Who Produce Good Results Feel Good About Themselves” of Simple Truths of Leadership: 52 Ways To Be A Servant Leader and Build Trust, Making Common Sense Common Practice, Ken Blanchardand Randy Conley I thought to myself, “Drop the mic!” Then at about that same moment I got this text from a client I had just facilitated an important event for tonight: “That was really neat and very special tonight. Thanks for all of your intentional work and planning to make such an awesome event!” That really made me feel good. I had produced the results they wanted.

I think they call this a “helper’s high.” As a person who considers himself a helper this is awesome. The brain released those feel-good chemicals called endorphins. I also felt gratitude which makes me want to do even better work for the organization, proving Blanchard’s and Conley’s points. We human beings have a basic need to know that we contribute, create value and can make a difference and effect change in our environment.

The Gift Of Feedback

You all know how the children’s fairytale The Emperor’s New Clothes ends…the emperor goes out with his new clothes which were allegedly invisible, and, of course, is naked. No one has the courage to tell the emperor he is naked until he comes to a little boy who says, “But he doesn’t have anything on!” It took the innocence of a child to make the emperor realize he had no clothes. In Simple Truth #23, “Servant Leaders Love Feedback” of Simple Truths of Leadership: 52 Ways To Be A Servant Leader and Build Trust, Making Common Sense Common Practice, Ken Blanchard and Randy Conley told us the feedback is a gift and that servant leaders love feedback.

“Feedback is the breakfast of champions.”

~ Rick Tate

It’s curious to me that a lot of development and coaching centers around getting better at giving feedback to others, but we rarely focus on how to attract, receive, and use actionable feedback about ourselves; even though it’s in our own best interest to do so. The top performing people I know always ask for feedback. Getting actionable feedback is a skill, and the top performers excel because they are continually honing that skill. Feedback is data and when we have more data, we’re better positioned to respond to the world around us. In a culture where leaders ask for feedback there are broad practical and interpersonal benefits, including relationship building and employee engagement.

Learning From Action Not Abstraction

As a person who has lived six decades now, the world feels like a more perilous place. I don’t really think the modern world is any more dangerous than it was fifty or sixty years ago. I do, however, believe we are in a much more risk averse world today. I think a lot about whether this risk aversion is inhibiting children’s development of autonomy, competence, confidence, and resilience. Growing up on a farm I had many opportunities to test observations, to experiment and tinker, to fail and bounce back. Nothing was treated like a major risk, and I was not prevented from learning how to judge the truly dangerous, from the simply unfamiliar. Please know I am not in any way suggesting putting our children in harms way. I just worry we we are ensconcing children in a life of abstraction rather than action. I guess the old agriculture teacher in me will always believe in “learning by doing.” “Doing” always comes with some inherent risk. Riding a bike carries the inherent risk of falling off. Thank goodness we have not made it illegal to ride a bike.

Case in point; yesterday my son was telling about things he had done as a kid growing up on our farm and his girlfriend was amazed. She asked if I knew he was doing all that. Well, yes and no. Was he doing anything bad? No! Case in point: having been in North Carolina during the recent gas shortage, I saw firsthand all the stupid ways some people were hoarding gas. I can guarantee you my son understands why you don’t put gas in a trash bag lined trash can with no lid. Enough said! And, yes I did see that done. Somehow, last evening, the subject of putting pennies on a railroad track came up. My son’s girlfriend had never heard of doing that. What? She then went on to talk about having some of those pennies you get flattened in a machine at vacation destinations. What? That’s no souvenir. I’m not going to say whether we did or did not smash pennies on a railroad track last night, but those would be a souvenir she would never forget making. Besides just plain being fun, we need to let children grapple with a little bit of healthy risk. Doing so can help teach motor skills, develop confidence, and get our young scholars acquainted with the use of tools and some of the basic principles of science. Let’s add some action to all the abstraction.

The Second Generation

Everyone should feel satisfied and proud of the career they want to pursue. Our goal has always been for our son to make peace with his post-secondary education and career goals and, first and foremost, make himself proud. There has been quite a lot of research done studying the impact parents have on their children’s educational and career goals. I am really glad and proud of the work I have done in the policy arena to have career exploration be something that happens much earlier than the end of high school. Our young scholars need to be preparing for the next chapter of life—whether that’s higher education, industry training, directly into the workforce or another path much earlier. I also believe that parents have an influence, either positive or negative, on this. I began reflecting on this yesterday when standing outside my son’s summer internship at Cal-Maine Foods. I could not go in for bio-security reasons, but I was so proud that there stood two generations of Animal Science majors at two different universities – Purdue University and Murray State University. Check out our picture and here is the tweet I did in the moment:

I asked Heath if he ever felt any pressure from me to be an animal science major. He answered an emphatic “no.” He did say that I had set an example because of how proud I was of having gone to Purdue and received degrees in both Animal Science and Agricultural Education. He also knows the story well of how I ended up being an agriculture science teacher and working in education my entire career. If you don’t know that story, click here. Heath also talked about all the experiences growing up on a working farm gave him. Home is where thinking ahead, dreaming big and setting goals can become normalized activities and allow all those skills to be available to our children when they come to the forks in the road. The earlier the conversations start, the better prepared they’ll be to make the best choice when that moment arrives. It’s not about applying pressure, but about being a model of making life choices that match passions and purpose.

Rule Follower Or Rule Breaker

Posted in Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on June 10, 2022

Last night I was doing a kickoff event for month long set of professional development and training gatherings I am doing for a marquee client of mine. Part of this work will be done in person and part virtually so participants were sent a box with everything they need for the virtual portion. In the box we put a sheet explaining a few things that needed to be done and included this statement: “Please wait to peruse the items in the box.” I loved this statement that the person who is leading this project for the client used because it really invoked two behaviors, from two different kinds of people: rule followers and rule breakers. So, in a quick ice-breaker/get-to-know you activity I decided to find out who was who. Amazingly, my little research project came out pretty close to some research I found. About 14% of the participants answered my question of what in the box intrigued you the most with, “I’m a rule follower and can’t answer that.” To be clear, the research I referenced had five rules to follow and only 15% followed all five rules, but you get the point. Everyone else had some item to answer the question with. Now, let me say I’m not real concerned, but I’m always intrigued by people identifying themselves as rule followers. So, I decided to pursue this a little.

But, what I did find was that our willingness to follow rules is a valuable resource for society. We know that people will follow rules even when they don’t understand the purpose, but individuals are more likely to follow the rules when they believe the rule is being followed by others. This is why it is so important to in some way highlight or showcase rules being followed. I still find it fascinating that people often identify themselves as being either rule followers or rule breakers, and both with equal degrees of pride. Everyone knows people who have a strong inclination to follow whatever rules have been set up. Everyone also knows people whose tendency is to ignore rules. In reality we probably need both. The rule follower probably has a well ordered and planned approach to getting things done. If you need their help in a tight turnaround, you know you’ll be safe in their hands. On the other hand the rule breaker lives for the moment and takes things as they come. If you’re looking for a new approach or way of doing things, they will be up for the challenge. But their casual and unplanned manner might make you question their reliability. In reflection, I’m not sure it is fair to characterize as rule follower or rule breaker – it’s just two personality traits.

The key is to find a way to mix the two. If I might use a metaphor; these are like an emulsion. Emulsions a mixture of two things that would typically not be soluble or miscible. Food products are many time emulsions and turn out wonderful. Some of these foods come to mind: milk, mayonnaise, sausage, béarnaise and hollandaise sauces, and lunch meat. Therefore, if we have self-awareness it will help us to understand our core preferences, strengths and weaknesses, as well as how our styles may come across to others who are very different from us. This self-awareness gives us tremendous power to adapt our behaviors when necessary for the good of the team. If we take the time to build relationships with those we work with we will better understand and appreciate each other’s natural preferences. Ultimately we can become a more powerful team.