Byron's Babbles

Authentic Play and Genuine Growth: Navigating the Power of Pretending in Learning and Life

Posted in C.S. Lewis, Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 16, 2026

This is one of those posts that has been on the list to do and then in draft stage for a while. It is inspired by a a great deal of discussion by C. S. Lewis in Mere Christianity about “pretending.” Those that know me well know that I loath the phrase “fake it till you make it.” First, it’s just not possible and second I encountered a leader in my career that used to tell their teachers that all the time. Let me assure you, that advice did not work. Everyone knows if you are faking it, particularly our students. In Mere Leadership, Lewis used the idea of pretending in negative and positive ways. Here is the passage that really got me thinking deeply about this:

“Why? What is the good of pretending to be what you are not? Well, even on the human level, you know, there are two kinds of pretending. There is a bad kind, where the pretence is there instead of the real thing; as when a man pretends he is going to help you instead of really helping you. But there is also a good kind, where the pretence leads up to the real thing. When you are not feeling particularly friendly but know you ought to be, the best thing you can do, very often, is to put on a friendly manner and behave as if you were a nicer person than you actually are. And in a few minutes, as we have all noticed, you will be really feeling friendlier than you were. Very often the only way to get a quality in reality is to start behaving as if you had it already. That is why children’s games are so important. They are always pretending to be grown-ups—playing soldiers, playing shop. But all the time, they are hardening their muscles and sharpening their wits so that the pretence of being grown-up helps them to grow up in earnest.” C. S. Lewis in Mere Christianity (p. 188)

Lewis said it best when he said in the above quote, “There is a bad kind [pretending], where the pretence is there instead of the real thing;” this is what happens when we try to fake it. Now when a child pretends, they are learning to be an adult. Children often engage in “pretend play,” which is a natural and vital part of their development. Through pretending, they explore different roles, practice social interactions, develop creativity, and understand the world around them. This kind of pretending isn’t about deception or superficiality; it’s a genuine form of learning and growth. It’s authentic within their developmental context and helps foster empathy, imagination, and problem-solving skills.

This can also be a good thing for us as adults if we are imagining what we want to become. When I practice a speech, I pretend there is an audience. I do not go give the keynote without practicing and try to fake that I am prepared. I promise you, the audience will know. Lewis warned us about deceiving ourselves into thinking we are something we are not.

Legends Rise: Embracing Courage and Action in the Face of Adversity

Posted in Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 14, 2026

I love Godsmack’s song, “When Legends Rise.” With this song having come out back in 2018, I cannot believe I have not blogged about it before now. The chorus in the song says, “It’s burning down, it’s burning high; When ashes fall, the legends rise; We burn it out a mile wide; When ashes fall, the legends rise.” This song could truly be an anthem for all of us. It symbolizes resilience and rebirth and suggests that even after destruction or difficult times (“ashes fall”) we can rise back up (“the legends rise”). The song conveys that from the ruins or after hardships, greatness and legendary status can be forged, highlighting themes of overcoming adversity and rising anew.

About the song, Sully Erna of Godsmack said, “I went through a real transition where I eliminated a lot of people and negative things from my life that were there for the wrong reasons, and it just kind of opened up a can of worms for me to flush out everything that was a bit negative and rebuild.” He went on to say, “And ‘Legends’ is about that – it’s just about kind of burning it down to the ground and rebuilding it one step at a time and reaching inside yourself to find the inner strength to rise above.” That is being a true legend: someone who is extraordinary, enduring, and inspiring. That person who emerges and stands tall.

As the song says: “Legends rise; You’re gonna do something about it or just stand and bleed? Legends rise.” This verse This verse emphasizes the idea of resilience and taking action in the face of challenges. When circumstances become tough as characterized as “stand and bleed”, we have a choice: either to endure and make something meaningful out of our situation or as the song says, “do something about it” or to passively suffer without making a change. The repeated phrase “Legends rise” serves as a powerful rallying call, inspiring listeners to choose courage, take initiative, and transform adversity into greatness. Click here and watch Godsmack perform the song live and tell me it doesn’t lift you up and encourage proactive effort and embody the spirit of rising above difficulties to achieve legendary status.

Scattering Our Interfering Thoughts

Posted in Educational Leadership, George MacDonald, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 11, 2026

In 1880 George MacDonald self-published an incredible book of daily reflective poems, Diary of an Old Soul. I am reading this book one daily entry at a time this year. In his April 10th entry in the book he said, “Might I but scatter interfering things—Questions and doubts, distrusts and anxious pride.” MacDonald was referring to removing “mental clutter” before that was actually the thing we now have a term for. He was offering a profound reflection on the barriers that can hinder our personal growth and spiritual development.

From this quote, we can learn that:

  1. Self-Reflection is Key: The “interfering things” such as doubts, questions, distrusts, and anxious pride often cloud our understanding and hinder our progress. Recognizing these internal obstacles is the first step toward overcoming them.
  2. Letting Go of Overanalyzing and Worry: MacDonald seemed to be suggesting that excessive questioning or doubting can become barriers rather than pathways to truth. Sometimes, by calming these mental and emotional disturbances, we create space for clarity and peace.
  3. Humility and Trust: “Anxious pride” indicates a kind of overconfidence or stubbornness that can prevent us from learning or accepting new truths. Cultivating humility opens us up to growth and understanding.
  4. Inner Peace Enhances Growth: Scattering these interfering thoughts signifies clearing the mind and heart of unnecessary hindrances that keep us from discovering deeper truths or connecting with something greater.

Now, here is the entire April 10 entry in the Diary of an Old Soul: “Might I but scatter interfering things—Questions and doubts, distrusts and anxious pride, And in thy garment, as under gathering wings, Nestle obedient to thy living side, Easy it were to love thee. But when thou Send’st me to think and labor from thee wide, Love falls to asking many a why and how.”In its entirety, I believe the poem encourages us, through MacDonald’s own encouragement to himself, to free ourselves from the mental clutter of doubts, pride, and distrust, enabling us to grow spiritually and personally. He underscored the importance of inner calm and humility in the journey toward wisdom and self-discovery.

Fostering Meaningful Connections Through Curiosity: Enhancing Conversations and Understanding

Posted in Creativity, Curiosity, Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 6, 2026

I was reminded today by a couple of different people of how I am constantly curious and my desire to build opportunities in for creativeness and curiosity when working with humans of all ages. Then, as I was studying and doing research for a project I am working on I came across this from Smart Leaders Smarter Teams: How You and Your Team Get Unstuck to Get Results by Roger Schwarz, “As you approach the conversation, be open to changing your mind” (p. 184). I try to live by this in every conversation. It goes hand in hand with a statement I love to make and really want to know the answer to: “Please tell me why I am wrong.” Staying open to changing our minds during a conversation is important because it demonstrates humility, respect, and willingness to learn.

This open mindedness allows us to consider new perspectives, expand our understanding, and find common ground. This openness fosters more meaningful and productive dialogues, reduces misunderstandings, and helps build trust and cooperation. Being receptive to change shows emotional maturity and can lead to personal growth, making interactions more positive and constructive for everyone involved.

Staying curious when approaching conversations is closely related to openness to learning. When we are curious, we are naturally inclined to listen more deeply, ask thoughtful questions, and explore different viewpoints. This curiosity fosters a genuine interest in understanding others, which can lead to more meaningful and enriching exchanges. It also helps us stay receptive to new information and perspectives, making conversations more engaging and productive. Embracing curiosity not only enhances our learning but also builds stronger connections with others by demonstrating our sincere interest and openness.

Leading With Global Significance

Posted in Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 5, 2026

Last week I had the incredible honor of spending time with incredible leaders from all over the world at the 2026 FLUXX Asia Leadership Conference in Manila, Philippines. During my opening keynote I stressed how important it is for us to be significant in the lives we serve. As I listened to the stories of fellow Global Pioneer Leadership awardees, and the Regional and 40 Under 40 awardees I was reminded that true leadership involves more than just personal excellence and recognition; it’s about uplifting others and leading by example in every circumstance. By embodying these qualities, leaders can influence their teams positively and create a culture of perseverance and support. Keep moving forward with this mindset—your efforts are already making a meaningful difference.

I was so inspired by the amazing stories of how all these global leaders have stayed committed during difficult times is a powerful way to create a lasting impact both professionally and personally. When leaders demonstrate unwavering dedication and empathy, they motivate others to push through obstacles, fostering a sense of unity and shared purpose. This approach not only strengthens team cohesion but also helps individuals develop their own resilience; thus improving our global community.

Remember, true leaders not only strive for excellence themselves but also lift others up, especially in challenging moments. These traits enable a leader to navigate challenges effectively while maintaining a supportive and positive environment for their team. Leadership is fundamentally rooted in qualities like resilience, compassion, and steady guidance. These traits enable a leader to navigate challenges effectively while maintaining a supportive and positive environment for their team.

Being Significant Serving The Story And Audience

Posted in Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 5, 2026

As I finished writing Finding Our Real Self, and continued to reflect on having been on the world stage this past week, I thought of Shakespeare’s immortal words from As You Like It, “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts, His acts being seven ages.” This suggested that life is like a theatrical play where everyone has roles to perform, and we’re constantly acting out different parts in various circumstances. Also, coming off a week of making a bunch of new and incredible friends from around the world, it reminds us that we all have our exits and entries in others’ lives. This drives home the importance of one of the points in my opening keynote this week that it is more important that we are significant than successful. Significance is the role we have played in lifting others and making their lives better.

Connecting this to the idea of selfless leadership, we can think of leaders as actors on this grand stage who prioritize others over personal fame or ego. When we focus on the well-being of our communities, teams and organization’s goals, they perform their roles authentically and with genuine intention, much like skilled actors embodying their characters fully. This authenticity fosters trust and inspires others to bring their best selves to their roles, creating a more harmonious and meaningful ‘production’—or organizational culture.

In essence, just as actors in a play serve the story and audience, selfless leaders serve their teams and shared goals, understanding that their performance contributes to the larger story of the organization and community.

Finding Our Real Self

Posted in C.S. Lewis, Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 4, 2026

I have spent this week on the global stage, literally. For the 2026 FLUXX Asia Leadership Conference in Manila, Philippines I served as the opening keynote speaker, panel speaker, and received the Global Pioneer Award for Global Education Innovation. When I am in an environment like that with hundreds of great humans from all over the world (70+ countries), it really causes me to pay attention, seek to understand, and appreciate every unique individual. This week I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on principles from C. S. Lewis in Mere Christianity. I already posted “What Sort of Impression are You Making?” this week.

In Mere Christianity, Lewis also said, “Even in literature and art, no man who bothers about originality will ever be original: whereas if you simply try to tell the truth (without caring twopence how often it has been told before) you will, nine times out of ten, become original without ever having noticed it. The principle runs through all life from top to bottom. Give up yourself, and you will find your real self” (p. 226). From this, leaders can learn the importance of humility, selflessness, and authentic service. When we let go of ego, pride, or the desire for personal recognition, they create space to connect genuinely with others, build trust, and foster a collaborative environment.

This perspective encourages us to prioritize the well-being of those we serve and the collective goals over our personal agendas. By doing so, we often discover our true strengths, passions, and purpose, which leads to more genuine leadership. Ultimately, embracing selflessness not only helps us grow personally but also inspires others to do the same, leading to more meaningful and trusting relationships.

What Sort of Impression are You Making?

Posted in Educational Leadership, Global Leadership, Leadership, Leadership Development by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 3, 2026

Yesterday, as I watched hundreds of individuals come together from all over the world for a global leadership conference in Manila Philippines, I was reminded of what C. S. Lewis said in Mere Leadership: “Even in social life, you will never make a good impression on other people until you stop thinking about what sort of impression you are making” (p. 226). It is interesting to watch those that are trying really hard to make a certain type of impression.

I want to be clear, that I am not talking about the different styles we all have in the way we dress. This obsession with impression goes beyond style, fashion, and culture. I am talking about the way we show up.

C.S. Lewis was suggesting that worrying excessively about how others perceive us can prevent genuine connections and authentic behavior. When we focus too much on creating a certain impression, we may become superficial or insincere, which ultimately hinders our ability to build trust and meaningful relationships. From this, we learn that authenticity is key; by being true to ourselves and not obsessing over impressions, we can foster more honest interactions, earn genuine respect, and develop better social bonds in our everyday lives.

Education 5.0: Empowering Minds for the Age of AI, Empathy, and Innovation

Yesterday I had the honor of serving on an international panel contemplating “Education 5.0: Empowering Minds for the Age of AI, Empathy, and Innovation.” It was an incredible discussion that was part of the 2026 FLUXX Asia Leadership Conference in Manila Philippines. I wanted to share some of the thoughts I contributed to the discussion yesterday.

When asked about the biggest challenge in education I brought three points:

  • We need to make sure students are developing the skills necessary to become worthwhile citizens in a global economy
  • Our education entities need to become more systems thinking and have systems change leaders to carry out those changes
  • As a global community we need to be learning promising practices from each other

Next, I was asked what critical human skills are at risk of being undervalued or underdeveloped because of the use of AI:

  • Critical thinking/Problem solving
  • Creativity/Curiosity
  • Ethical reasoning
  • Adaptability/Resilience

How do we strengthen the human connection for students?

  • Students should work on real problems and issues
  • Students should work with adults I mentioned my partnership with AgReliant Genetics when I was teaching where students were doing real research for the company and collaborating with the scientists
  • We need to provide mentoring by adults for students
  • Work-based learning opportunities
  • Students present results/proposals
  • Help students understand what it means to have ownership in their learning/education and then allow them to have that ownership
  • Create space for students to have human to human contact and interaction

What are actions needed for proper use of AI?

  • Provide support and professional development in the use of AI
  • We need to incorporate AI, not make it an either/or thing
  • Get diligent in helping students recognize fact from opinion/false information [Research from Programme for International Student Assessment (PISA) showed that only 9% of 15-year-olds can actually tell when facts are really facts and not just opinions]

Finally, I was asked to complete the following sentences (the italicized are what I contributed):

  1. AI will replace routine tasks, but never replace the human elements of love, creativity, curiosity, and empathy.
  2. The most underrated skill is emotional intelligence.
  3. The future of education is students taking ownership of their own learning and education.

Betting On Us

Posted in Educational Leadership, Global Education, Leadership by Dr. Byron L. Ernest on April 2, 2026

Today, I heard the phrase, “Convincing others to bet on you when you don’t fit the stereotype.” In the context it was used, it meant persuading or earning the trust of people to support or choose us, even though we may not conform to their typical expectations or conventional images of success. It involves showcasing your unique qualities, skills, or potential that challenge common stereotypes, and demonstrating that you are capable despite not fitting the usual mold.

Leaders can use this mindset by embracing authenticity and showcasing our unique strengths to inspire trust and confidence in our teams. Instead of conforming to traditional stereotypes of leadership, we can highlight qualities like empathy, creativity, adaptability, or resilience that set us apart. By doing so, we encourage others to see value in diverse approaches and perspectives, fostering an inclusive environment where creativity and curiosity thrive. Additionally, as leaders we can model confidence in our unconventional qualities, convincing others that success isn’t limited to stereotypical traits but is achieved through authenticity, dedication, and a willingness to challenge norms.