Needing To Know Versus Wanting To Know Something Else
Loved this line from George MacDonald in his great book, Lilith, a Romance: “We are often unable to tell people what they NEED to know, because they WANT to know something else, and would therefore only misunderstand what we said.” Right before saying that, the raven said, “…you and I use the same words with different meanings.” These statements really hit home because they are so true. I know I have been on both sides of this equation.
First, we are reminded how much our words we use matter. It is also important that we establish a common meaning for the words we use. Our words matter. They matter a lot. I always say that language matters. Another comment from the raven was, “…it involves a constant struggle to say what cannot be said with even an approach to precision…” Sometimes it is just hard to find the right words. When we can find common meanings for our words, we can begin to truly understand each other. To get the point here, think back to a meeting when someone was speaking in the lingo of an industry you were not familiar with. Super frustrating, isn’t it?
Now back to the comment of “…unable to tell people what they NEED to know, because they WANT to know something else…” This is one of those places where we need to be open-minded and malleable. So many times we aren’t hearing what we need to hear because we are listening for something else. Additionally, we get so focused on something that we do not hear what we need to know. One way I combat this is to ask the question, “What do I need to know?” If I am really listening to understand when I ask that question, I put myself in a much better place to learn what I need to know.
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